I host a matrix tuwunel server and can recommend it.

My motivations are that it gives greater control, and i think federated platforms are better.

I have it set up on a hetzner vps running debian, which tuwunel provides an official package for.

Call it wistful thinking but I still believe donations are the way forward.

But it requires a bit of a shift in both willingness and ease.

Currently donations are also distributed pretty unfair, they go mostly to the user facing side, while crucial packages remain forgotten.

I would almost suggest some kind of system where you could set aside a certain amount of money, and it would donate automatically to all your installed packages, with some kind of weighting system I suppose.