I mean, I am re-reading your post, and it doesnt look like you are asking for advice, but rather seeking a discussion of an observed phenomenon. You use phrases like “whats up with X?” and “is it always the fate of Y?” Then at the end you ask for suggestions of other communities to avoid, which seems, at least in my reading, to be the only time you are asking for advice. So in a post which seems, for the bulk of it, to want general discussion, it seems reasonable to want to see specific examples of what we are discussing.

I will join the chorus asking for examples of what you are talking about. Any actually misogynistic content I see is typically massively downvoted.

How do you automate removing rule-breaking posts?